When you experience a divorce you experience a pain that is indescribable.  The bible tells us we are joined together as one flesh.  Well when you tear flesh apart it is not natural, it is very painful, takes time to heal and leaves a nasty scar.  I have two friends who are about the same age as I am.  We have discussed our situation in detail over and over.  It appears that we mourn the loss of what “could and should” have been.  Most of us are now relying on a single income.  WE spent our lives raising children and putting our careers on hold or not focusing on them.  We believed that we would live with our spouse forever.  Maybe not happily ever after, but at least content.

Our children are grown and now is the time that we could enjoy the empty nest and spend time with the love of our lives.  Coffee on Saturday mornings, quick weekend trips away and looking forward to the holidays.  Now we dread the weekends, can’t imagine taking a trip away and the holidays are a constant reminder of the dysfunction in our family.

We look to God to creat a path for us to follow.  A path that no one planned for.  You don’t suddenly at 10 years of marriage say, oh gee, I guess I should plan ahead for divorce!  You continue to believe that you are a team that can overcome anything.  But it takes two to make a team.

Life will go on and I am believing that the best is yet to come!